http://www.helpguide.org/toolkit/step_by_step_guide.htm

Discover the powerful role of emotions and how they can make the difference between success and failure in every aspect of life.

Identify thoughts and habits that interfere with your ability to understand yourself, connect to others, and manage your emotions.

Step 1: Getting started

 Step 2: Learn quick stress relief (1st core skill)Investigate the fastest way to De-stress in the moment—a tool you can use no matter what you’re doing or where you are.

 

Step 3: Learn why emotional awareness matters (2nd core skill) Learn about the importance of knowing what you are feeling and why and the link between your emotions and your body.

Step 4: Practice the Ride the Wild Horse audio meditation; Learn about an audio mindfulness meditation that teaches you how to manage and harness even your most unpleasant and frightening emotions.

Step 5: Integrate the toolkit into your life

The Enlightened Manager Blog: Accountability Without Anger, Notes on Emotional Intelligence

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After Willy Wonka snaps at Grandpa Joe and Charlie Bucket for sampling Fizzy Lifting Drinks, ( A final test by Wonka of character) Grandpa Joe threatens to give Slugworth the Everlasting Gobstopper. However, Charlie can't bring himself to betray Wonka and thus returns the Everlasting Gobstopper to Wonka. Because Charlie has EQ, he is accountable, after all, he did sample the Fizzy Lifting Drinks.

Emotional Intelligence and Acceptance

A critical first step in developing the ability to deal with differences is self-awareness in order to understand our reactions to others.This ongoing process involves reaching and maintaining a

comfort with one’s own identity, including an understanding of one’s values, passions, preferences,

and worldview. This introspection also involves becoming conscious of the biases, assumptions, and hot buttons that influence one’s attitudes toward others. Awareness precedes choice and change.Self understanding helps one to predict behavior through knowing what evokes a particular emotional reaction and behavioral response. This insight is fundamental to managing emotional reactions and behavior toward others.

http://www.eidi-results.org/articles/Practitioners-corner-EIDI.pdf
The Greatest example of high (IQ) and low/ or no (EQ)

Kaczynski's slide from promise to prison might be the most extreme of all. An intellectual prodigy, he was accepted to Harvard when he was just 16. He earned a Ph.D. in mathematics from the University of Michigan and he was teaching at U.C.-Berkeley when he was just 25. 
http://news.yahoo.com/unabomber-updates-status-harvard-alum-magazine-192243758--abc-news-topstories.html

Intelligence (IQ)= Intelligence Quotient

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)= Emotional Quotient 

Perceiving Emotions: The first step in understanding emotions is to accurately perceive them. In many cases, this might involve understanding nonverbal signals such as body language and facial expressions.  

Reasoning With Emotions: The next step involves using emotions to promote thinking and cognitive activity. Emotions help prioritize what we pay attention and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention.

Understanding Emotions: The emotions that we perceive can carry a wide variety of meanings. If someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to work that morning or that he's been fighting with his wife.

Managing Emotions: The ability to manage emotions effectively is a key part of emotional intelligence. Regulating emotions, responding appropriately and responding to the emotions of others are all important aspect of emotional management.

Developing emotional intelligence through five key skills:

Emotional intelligence consists of five key skills, each building on the last:

• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 1: The ability to quickly reduce stress.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 2: The ability to recognize and manage your emotions.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 3: The ability to connect with others using nonverbal communication.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 4: The ability to use humor and play to deal with challenges.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 5: The ability to resolve conflicts positively and with confidence.

IQ alone is not enough; EQ also matters. In fact, psychologists generally agree that among the ingredients for success, IQ counts for roughly 10% (at best 25%); the rest depends on everything else—including EQ. A study of Harvard graduates in business, law, medicine and teaching showed a negative or zero correlation between an IQ indicator (entrance exam scores) and subsequent career success. 

Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 1: Rapidly reduce stress

High levels of stress can overwhelm the mind and body, getting in the way of your ability to accurately “read” a situation, hear what someone else is saying, be aware of your own feelings and needs, and communicate clearly.
Being able to quickly calm yourself down and diffuse stress helps you stay balanced, focused, and in control–no matter what challenges you face or how stressful a situation becomes.
To read further on the subject of emotional intelligence, and to see additional skill sets on (EQ) go to:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eq5_raising_emotional_intelligence.htm

When does emotional intelligence begin? Is it nature or nurture?
Raphael Slobodchikov (2 days old)

Animal Emotions and Intelligence

In "What the Animals Tell Me," Sonya Fitzpatrick describes numerous psychic experiences with animals. In her anecdotes, she describes animals as surprisingly intelligent and emotionally complex. They're a lot like people in animals' bodies. During her sessions, animals remember events from long past. They experience and vocalize emotions and reflect on their feelings. Other psychics tell similar stories. According to pet psychics, animals are conscious, self-aware and able to think and experience emotions the way humans do.

“Mother is the word for God on the hearts and lips of all little children” ..William Makepeace Thackeray

" We don't necessarily think about the consequences of our love. If we are experiencing an unhealthy form of love, harming ourselves and possibly others around us, we may still crave that love while actively ignoring the consequences. We don't think about how to love as much as we think about how to feel about being in love. It's an interesting conundrum." (Rebecca McCarthy)

Reminded me of a book I read last summer, "The Thorn birds" by Colleen McCullough, A love story adapting a theme as the metaphor, a silent bird who never sings until the moment of its death. The thorn bird leaves its nest in fierce pursuit of the thorn tree; it does not rest until it has fulfilled its final quest. When it reaches the thorn tree, it impales itself on the thorn, even though it knows it will die. It cannot resist the instinct...Then sings a song, even more beautiful than the nightingale.

Hello Everyone, 
My name is Sandy Jaeger, I have my degree in Culinary Arts, and am finishing my bachelor's in Hospitality Management. My goals within the next five years, include opening a Bed&Breakfast, and perhaps getting a Masters in Hospitality, or maybe even a PHD. My objective for my blog, is to investigate what emotional intelligence is and its relation to love. To show our goals should include success in love. I would like people to realize how they love, will carry on in future generations. I often hear of people who have passed on, and someone will say, "He was such a good Father," or "She sure did love animals," or perhaps, " That old man has passed, and his kids act just like him, always kicking the dog." I want to show that you teach your children how to love, just like you teach them how to read, or ride a bike. Love doesn't come with a syllabus, you have to create your own, just like a teacher; because you are one. People will always remember how you loved, or didn't.
You can reach me at  www.sandyjaeger.blogspot.com or sndyjaeger@yahoo.com

Animal Abuse in Families Is another indicator of the lack of emotional intelligence & love:
Because dogs and cats are considered part of the family in most households, when a
family member becomes abusive, it is logical to assume that the pet, as the weakest
member of the family, may become a victim of that violence. When animal cruelty
co-occurs with spousal or child abuse, the abuser may use violence against animals as a
means of further terrorizing his or her human victims. Women who are abused often stay
in destructive situations due to threats against or concern for their companion animals.
Abusers can manipulate and control their human victims through threatened or actual
violence against beloved family pets. Killing a cherished companion animal can be an act
of revenge; it also can be a way of removing an important source of comfort and love, an
act that further isolates the abused.(Humane Society)

How do you Love your Pet? Do you play with them, or let them play by themselves?

I am very intrigued by the emotional intelligence of love. Are you born with emotional intelligence? Must you have emotional intelligence to be successful at love? Is it nature or nurture? So many questions, and I hope to give some great examples of this on my blog, because whatever our goals are in life, love is the most important.